Working in retail and with 15 other co-workers taught me some of the easiest ways of connecting with another person. So easy, we miss it every day.
Possessing the skill to connect with others can be as easy as starting with a simple “Hello”. People love it when we are greeted sincerely because it sparks the feeling of being noticed and conveys positivity.
I’ve been working at a nail salon for about 3 months now and after I have gotten over the fear of not polishing good enough or being scowled by my boss, I started focusing on my greetings and carrying a good conversation.
Possessing this skill made it easier to work with my co-workers and maintain a positive environment. This led me to have better days overall.
Say Hello, Make Eye Contact, Smile, then Pause
This order is very crucial in how well you can carry out a sincere greeting and have a positive effect on your hello-ee.
Customers are being greeted every day and a “hello” can be the most over-looked and insincere greeting of all time especially when it’s an obligation. More harm can be done if the greeting is too rushed, even.
Having positive energy and wanting it to affect someone can be easy because realistically we all crave for it.
Positive energy can be conveyed through the tone of your voice, the look in your eyes, the way you smile, and especially if there was time for them to react to it all.
Sometimes just when I say hello the right way, I’m like, ‘Whoa, I’m so cool.’ — Robert Pattinson Read
1. When I say “Hello”, it is effortless and I am meant to do it
The tone of your voice should be firm, but not commanding. The tone of your voice has the biggest effect on how you make the other person feel. Rather if it’s welcoming or too pushy, the tone will quickly give it away.
Before you say hello, mentally take a step back, inhale, and on your exhale, relax your throat muscles. A tense hello is the worse because it sounds unnatural and is forgettable.
There were a couple of times when I was greeted at the downtown YMCA by the head manager. His greeting immediately gave away his authority, but I felt like I wasn’t the one being greeted. It was if he was talking to someone walking behind me because his greeting was talked over me. This isn’t how you want someone to feel. Have confidence, but also allow space for a connection. Say hello as if all are equal players.
Say hello as if you are meant to be there at the time and place, and nowhere else.
2. I direct my greeting by using eye contact
This is a simple one and this tip has been reiterated in every type of communication book.
Search for eye contact until they know you’re talking to them and maintain it until they have greeted back. The significance of your greeting depends on rather you allow the other person to respond or not. It may be overlooked, but skipping eye contact is the same as not greeting them at all.
Either it’s your job to greet or you have chosen someone lucky from a crowd, having eye contact shows respect and it also shows your interest in what they have to say.
3. Smiling is the best part of any greeting
There is no greeting without teeth showing.
Have you ever been greeted by someone who didn’t make an effort to smile? Remember how that made you feel and try to embody the total opposite of that.
Positivity is especially conveyed through a real smile. Smiling is a way I show that I’m in a good place and a good time. Smiling carries positive energy from one place to another. And smiling is a way to share this energy with the people in the room.
“We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.” — Mother Teresa
I love it when I’m being greeted with an addictive smile. These smiles are strong enough to make you feel what the other person is feeling. A firm state of presence. And it feels awesome.
Wanting to give positive greetings mean you must have the characteristics within yourself already. Possessing it makes it easier to express and share it with others.
So be that person who makes others feel alive through a clear and crisp, greeting.
This is the most important part of a positive and sincere greeting because you can’t experience positivity if it can’t be shared with someone else.
There is no such greeting without reciprocation.
After all the previous steps, take a pause and give them a chance to respond. The significance of any form of “hello” largely depends on how you allow him or her to respond. If what you say is positive, then allow them to respond positively. That is how your energy is carried through someone.
Pay attention to how they respond and what they respond with.
Allow yourself to be present at the moment. It’s not that hard. It’s actually quite easy to give someone 1-second of your full attention to such a simple greeting, but not enough people do it.
Try it and see how these steps benefit you.
These steps are only the beginning of a positive connection that can develop into a meaningful conversation. I’ve had handfuls of conversations that were much more worthwhile than the average stranger-to-nail-technician talk and it all starts with a spark of connection at the beginning.
It’s easier to have a positive conversation if someone lights the match first, and you should be the one to do that. Hold the power to having these types of conversations.
Possessing the true meaning of positivity and wanting to share it with others is something we need to see more often. It’s quite refreshing to encounter a sincere hello like a breath of air.
The best way is simply starting with a “Hello”.